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10 Tips to Survive and Thrive on Valentine's Day

February 11, 2008

Dear ones, 
It's that wonderful month of year again where we celebrate 
Love. Everyone can use the tips in this newsletter to 
create more love. I wrote this 3 years ago and revised it 
for this week. Pass it on to anyone you know who wants 
more love. 
 
Warmest regards, 
Rosemary Heenan 
The Heart Activist 
 
10 Tips for Singles to Survive and Thrive on Valentine’s 
Day  
 
Do you feel all alone and out of sorts on Valentine’s Day 
when you're not in a relationship? Use these suggestions 
to reframe your experience and set the stage for what you 
want to attract for yourself. Here are 10 things you can 
do to make it a great day for you.  
 
1. Spend some time thinking of the loves you have known in 
the past. Are you holding any anger or grudges towards 
them? If so, spend some time releasing those feelings.  
Write a letter of forgiveness to the person, which you can 
choose to send or not. Be open and willing to forgive.  
Forgiveness gets you off the hook and frees you from a 
toxic bond that keeps you stuck in attachment to that other 
person. It doesn’t say what they did was okay, just that 
you aren’t going to hang on to feelings that are attached 
to the past and that hurt you more than the other person. 
Forgiveness opens the door to your heart and creates a 
space and loving emotional tone. 
 
2. Spend at least 5 minutes a day in front of the mirror 
and tell yourself that you love yourself, exactly as you 
are now. To attract a healthy, loving relationship we must 
love ourselves first.  
 
3. Think about the people that are part of your world that 
could use some extra attention and affection because they 
are alone. Is there someone you know that you could call 
and say I love you? Or send them a card? Giving what you 
want to receive sets the Law of Reciprocity in motion. 
 
4. Set an intention to have a loving day and to 
participate as fully as you possibly can in loving rituals. 
Be your own valentine for the day. What would you want 
to receive today - flowers, chocolates, and a loving card?  
Buy them for yourself!  
Create as much as possible the Valentine’s Day you 
would want to have if you were in a relationship. That’s 
telling the universe what you intend to have in your life 
and gets you into the feeling level of the goal, which is a 
key way to attract what you desire.  
 
5. Celebrate with a friend. It is much more fun to be in 
the spirit of the day than to stay home feeling sorry for 
yourself. Ask one or more friends to go out and do 
something special with you. 
 
6. Dress up. Act as though you are going on a date. You 
are, only it is with yourself! Dress, do your hair and 
make-up as if you were going out with the person of your 
dreams. If you treat yourself with this loving attention, 
you will feel the excitement of the day and that will send 
you out in the right frame of mind to have a great time. 
 
7. When you are at the restaurant or wherever you have 
chosen to go, notice the couples and bask in all the love 
that is being expressed. Soak it in and let it permeate 
you and keep you open to it. It will remind you of what 
you desire and give you concrete evidence that it is 
possible to have. Maybe you are not part of a couple 
today, but you could be tomorrow and this will help you be 
ready.  
 
8. Be grateful for all the people you love now or have in 
the past -your friends, family and loved ones.  
Appreciation opens our hearts, puts us in a very positive 
frame of mind and says a great big “Thank you” to the 
universe. Appreciation means “to increase in value” and we 
are much more likely to receive our heart’s desire when we 
appreciate what we do have. 
 
9. Use today to recommit to what you really want in a 
relationship. Make a list of all the qualities that are 
important to you in a partner. Write out ten to thirty 
qualities or so and then read them over each day to remind 
you of what you intend to attract. Give thanks that this 
person is on the way to you. 
 
10. Now spend some time visualizing yourself in a 
relationship with this ideal person. 
What would it feel like to be in this relationship? What 
activities would you like to  
do? If you would be living together, what is your home 
like? What’s your favorite restaurant? See yourself 
having a romantic candlelight dinner with your man or 
woman. What are you eating? What are you wearing? What 
places would you go?  
 
Get in touch with whatever sensory experiences you can 
create. Perhaps there’s a cologne or perfume that you 
enjoy. Smell that. What does it feel like to walk 
hand-in-hand or to be held in the arms of this person?  
 
This process of visualizing and acting “as if” is 
another tool to create the life of your dreams. 
 
Revised 2008 Rosemary Heenan 
 
Are you holding back from trying again because your heart 
was wounded? Do you believe all the good ones are married 
or there’s no one out there for you? Heart Power coaching 
will help you release the past and open your heart to love 
again. 
 
Contact me at rosemary@rosemaryheenan.com to see how you 
can benefit from Heart Power Coaching. 
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About the Author: 
Rosemary Heenan, The Heart Activist, is a certified coach 
whose life purpose is to work with people who think of 
themselves as healers. Heart Power Coaching assists you in 
re-opening your heart, living with passion and attracting 
your heart’s desires.  
 
Rosemary has been a college professor of early childhood 
education for 31 years. Her ebooks, The Eight Keys to 
Creating the Life of Your Dreams and Attract a Loving 
Relationship are available for purchase at 
http://www.rosemaryheenan.com  
 
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