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Meet Other Singles by Doing Something You Love
September 3, 2005
It's that wonderful time of the year again. Back to
school. For those of us who teach, it often seems more
like the beginning of the year than New Years.
My Fall resolution is to get my ezine out there to all of
you who have signed up. The focus of the newsletter right
now will be on singles and meeting new people, enjoying
yourself as a single and how to attract a loving
relationship. Embedded in this will be principles that can
be applied to any area of your life.
Meet Other Singles by Doing Something You Love
Here’s one the best ways I have found to meet other singles
while enjoying what you would do anyway.
Create your own group to do something that you enjoy. Last
summer we took up golf and were quickly hooked. What
better way to get outdoors and enjoy the summer sun and
also get exercise. Golf courses are usually very
attractive, with lots of trees, some bodies of water, and
just very nice places to spend summer days.
My friend and I decided to set up our own singles league
this year. The course that we played at didn’t have a
heavy crowd on Friday nights and we were usually free then,
so we booked the course.
During the few months before we began to play, my friend
advertised in local papers and had others put up flyers at
local businesses and factories. We asked everyone we knew
who was single to join us and encouraged them to invite
their other single friends.
We started off small and were pleased to find that we are
attracting some really great people we might not have
otherwise met.
Another way we attracted members was to go on Yahoo and
Match.com and invite people we found interesting who stated
golf as an interest.
The best part of this experience is that you are enjoying
something you would do anyway. It’s a natural way to be
with people and there’s absolutely no pressure to pair up.
Golf is a great sport to get a sense of how people behave
and react. Some seemed more competitive than others; some
have a shorter fuse when their ball goes in the woods or
sand traps. Others are just having fun and show up with big
smiles and a positive attitude. Perhaps we wouldn’t learn
all this so quickly if we met at a dance or bar.
Another plus has been getting tips as we play from more
seasoned players. Each week my golf game is improving and
I am learning more about the game.
We also have moved beyond the game to having dinner and
drinks after the game. We search new places to try each
week and have enjoyed house parties once we knew each other
well enough to feel safe and comfortable. Now we are
branching out even more and going to concerts together.
Everyone keeps an eye out for other events in our community
that we could enjoy.
I’ve made new friends and some of the people are beginning
to pair up and see each other outside the group. It’s a
great way to introduce other people you think might hit it
off, without the stress of a one-on-one blind date.
Now there’s always something to do on a Friday night and we
are having fun. What better way to attract a partner than
when you are relaxed and enjoying yourself.
Not a golfer? What do you enjoy that you form a group
around? Euchre, bridge, tennis, volleyball, books? Don't
stay home alone on Friday nights. Whatever your interest,
there are others to meet and share that with.
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The golf league was a great way for meeting new people.
Some of our group are dating steadily now and we are happy
for them. However, we won't be able to keep golfing all
year, so what else could we do instead?
Some people are suggesting a curling group. Others are
interesting in going to movies together and then going out
for a drink or dinner and a discussion of the movie.
Another idea is a hike in one of our conservation areas on
a weekend afternoon.
Whatever it is, make sure it is something that you would
want to do anyway, so that if you do not meet someone you
fancy, you'll be enjoying the activity and the company of
the others in your group.
The key principles are to take some action and also to have
fun doing something you love. Action creates momentum and
brings you closer to what you want. Doing something you
enjoy is important because you are presenting yourself to
others at your best and most attractive self.
I would like to let you know of my upcoming workshops and
teleclasses.
I'll be doing a two session Create the Life of Your Dreams
workshop at St. Clair College on Saturdays September 17 and
24th from 9:00-1:00 each day. The focus is to "learn
practical skills and techniques to take your life from
ordinary to extraordinary. You will also uncover some of
the ways you sabotage yourself from making real, lasting
progress and techniques to overcome those self-defeating
behaviours."
Cost is $150.00 + $10.50 GST. The course code is GNR 1160N
and you'll need a registration form if this is the first
course you've taken through the college. Let me know if
you need any help with that.
I am also planning a four month teleclass on Attracting a
Loving Relationship. My plan is to start it in early
October and I will have more news on that in the next
issue. You are welcome to call or email for the details
too.
Please feel free to forward this ezine to anyone you know
who might enjoy it.
Copyright 2005 Rosemary Heenan
About the Author:
Rosemary Heenan is a Certified Integrative Coach
Professional. Her specialty is coaching successful,
professional, mid-life women who are ready to add a great
relationship to their lives. She has been a college
professor for more than 28 years.
If you were forwarded this by a friend, get your own copy
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http://www.rosemaryheenan.com
Email rheenan@mnsi.net
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